Oct. 24, 2012

Seeking True Friendship

by Joel M. Cliett (author's profile)
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Seeking Help
(Aug. 22, 2012)

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Seeking true friendship
My name is Micheal, im a 36 year old white male. im 5'10 179 lbs. i have a clean shaved head, hazel eyes, a short goatee and several tatoos. im honest, loyal, kind, caring, understanding and very open minded. i enjoy reading fantasy and vampire novels working out, volleyball art and getting to know others. i am incarcerated and i am searching for a good hearted women to correspond through the mail with, you must be over the age of 18 and open minded like myself. you can ask me anything and i wont get offended. im attractive to women of all ages, so your a ge and location isnt important so if your interested pick up a pen and write directly to me today and plese send a photo. i will correspond with women all over the world. sincerely yours Micheal cliett

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Nicki Posted 7 months ago. ✓ Mailed 7 months ago  
So... what do I think of your ad is what you asked me. Here's my response... (& this is just my personal opinion). Others may disagree with me - yourself included.

I don't think all of the details of your physical appearance are necessary. I don't think people will write to you because of how you look & you attach a photo anyway don't you.

I think you should take out the statement about 'a lot of people claim that they're open-minded...' that sounds a little defensive perhaps, or possibly suggests you ask very personal questions very early on, some people may not be comfortable with that.

You then say you're attractive to women... perhaps say you're 'attracted' to women instead (I think that's what you meant anyway).

I would also not ask for anyone to send a photo. They probably will anyway, but it's nicer sometimes to offer that as a gesture when writing to someone, than to be asked.

The rest of it is just fine. I like it!

As a little extra input from me personally... The ad I chose to respond to 3 years ago showed a little vulnerability which is what appealed to me. (He said he was scared to death of thinking this is all there is & wanted someone to help him keep in touch with the outside world) - I would only suggest you showed some form of vulnerability if that's what's in your heart though.

Once you are writing to someone, a few tips might be, remain respectful, let them lead the conversation for a while & don't complain! (about people lying to you is what I'm thinking of specifically). It's ok to share negative things, that is the nature of your environment after all & people understand that, but choose your words carefully so those statements sound like simple facts, not like you're a victim or whining about things. Perhaps keep your first few letters fairly short (2 or 3 pages) to keep them wanting more. Keep it happy & light hearted. Share how you feel. And most importantly, remember we all have something to learn from everyone we interact with - You have as much to offer into their lives as they do to yours.

Best of Luck with it all!

Nicki

Joel M. Cliett Posted 5 months, 3 weeks ago.  
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