I like what you've said about the foul line - very good example. I'd like to offer up my two-cents and include "control" into the picture. For example, I'm on the foul line, I control everything up until the moment the ball leaves my fingertips. As soon as it's in ...
Wow, that was quite a letter - I read the entire thing and appreciate you sharing your story. Even though you might not understand your dad's behavior, you've really put a lot of time into forgiving him and that's more than can be said for the rest of us.