Hey Alyssa,
1/14/17 (Sat.)

I got your comment, or questions I should say, the other day and I'd like to respond to them, but before I do, can I ask you, what is your research for? Anyways, here's to your first question. Well, I think some ways that I deal with missing women in prison are to try and reach out to women through pen pal sites or asking friends if they know any women who are interested in writing, but for the most you are very limited, especially in these times, most people don't want to write letters anymore, they are always on their phones texting or on their computers, but every now and then you will find somebody who likes to write or wants a pen pal. For the most though, prison is a very lonely place.

Do I think men change not being around women? Well, yes, because being in prison totally deprives you of any presence of a woman and that is devastating, to me it is, yes, it changes you, it causes you to appreciate them so much more too. It just causes you to realize that you did this to yourself though by coming to prison, you deprived yourself from being around women. It is rough, to always long for the scent of a woman's hair, or her touch, or a woman's laugh, there's so many things women have that I miss, and since I'm never going home, I will never experience those things again. It is a true loss, it's a big part of life that's just not there. Over the years, it only grows stronger too, you just learn to deal with it. For me it has caused me to be extremely violent at times. There's really just nothing you can do about it. Do I think I've become more "reserved" when we are released? Well, I've been released a few times before this, and I can only speak for myself on this, but yes, I think I was more reserved I guess, almost scared of women at first but quickly got over it. I can say this, it caused me to respect women a lot more, and that their really good and because I am the proud father of 2 of my own daughters, it also causes me to treat women like I'd want somebody to treat my little ladies, with respect and compassion. I wish I could really put in words how bad I miss women, and I'm not alone, all men in prison feel that way, unless their gay or something? I only wish I was getting out so that I could once again enjoy the touch of a woman, or the smell of her perfume. It's a huge loss, I hope this helps you with your research, OK then, bye.

Respectfully, Todd