Between the Bars: Comments on 'What do you do when your child betras you?'https://betweenthebars.org/posts/commentfeed/240972017-01-15T08:37:26ZComment2017-01-15T08:37:26ZRobert Pezzeca /people/show/1738tag:betweenthebars.org,2017-01-15:/posts/24097/what-do-you-do-when-your-child-betras-you/comments
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Comment2016-12-21T07:25:25ZJT/people/show/7238tag:betweenthebars.org,2016-12-21:/posts/24097/what-do-you-do-when-your-child-betras-you/comments
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What do you do? You continue to love them and wait. Sometimes children (and adults) make mistakes. You have to let them make those mistakes. Sometimes, there are consequences for those mistakes. In this case, she cannot have contact with you (and you cannot have contact with her). <br /><br />That's real and it's a consequence. But you don't stop hoping for change. It happens. We all grow up and learn from our mistakes.<br /><br />I have to say that you, of all people, know how serious life can be and how big the mistakes can be. In your life, you have tried to understand what forgiveness is - because of what you did.<br /><br />Your daughter is a young adult who has had many obstacles placed in her path. She is making mistakes - some small and others, perhaps, very big. If I were her parent, I would continue to love her and hope that she finds a good path. If she sought forgiveness from me, I'd give it to her - because she needed it and was my daughter. <br /><br />Everyone changes as they get older. You did, and so will she. <br /><br />JT
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