THOUGHTS FROM THE HEART

BY: Joseph (Josephus) Smith
2012 August 22
0345 hours:

THE VANISHING MIND PART 2

This country is the only country, whereas once our parents grow old, and "we" don't want to take on the duty, because it is our "DUTY" we put them in a "D" Nursing Home!!! Adn my so called black aristocrat family was no difference. This truth came when I was sent overseaa to Russia to serve an 8 month tour of suty. Once finding this information out from my turn sister, I took leave, when back to New York, hired a lawyer - and onward to probate court. My family members all stated to the judge this was the best place for her, had doctors come in and state the same at the hearing. My Nana had done well for herself, and was wealthy and everybody wanted a part of it, with the exception of the writer and the judge saw through it, and she was put in my care. I left the court house and went to the Nursing Home in Brooklyn New York nd got my Nana. Didn't know or have an idea what I was going to do, or where we were going. But I, after getting the military permission to say state side, we were on our way to Fort Bragg NC. My Nan left this world three years later, I was not sad, but blessed, that I got those years to spend with her. I said at the outset that I did not want my experience to be seen as representative of how Alzheimer's patients handle the disease or how families deal with loved ones. Each family is different; The disease, I know,is horrific, and itcan only bring unimaginable sorrow to any family, in ways that are specific, brutally intimate and often disabling. "EVEN" the "STRONGEST" family can flail apart under the enormous pressure of trying to comflate a wonderful part, or at least one where there was an assumed level of intimacy and identification with an increasingly distraught present. It is at the height of horror to confront someone who was shape, the shell and the aspect of a person with whom you have your most intimate moments,