Duplicity of Interracial Relationships

There is a myth that has been distributed that a lot of people dislike interracial relationships because they feel like people should stick with their own race. 55.7% probably do feel like this. But the other percentage may not fee like they have a different reason for being biased against interracial relationships.

I feel that if you find love, then go for it. Follow your heart. Nobody can tell you who to love. But this is a subject that I have been thinking about for a long, long, long time. I have been observing interracial relationships and listening to others talk about it.

For myself, I am very open-minded. Because I am African-Native American mixed. I have dated other races. I often tell my children, "Whoever you choose to be with, I will accept them. Why? 'Cause I cannot tell you who to love, my baby." Son made a confession to me. He said he loves Caucasian women because they are drama-free. I said, "What is wrong with African-American women?" He said, "They are a lot of drama." I said, "Baby, that is stereotyping." He said, "Ma's, that is truly the way it is." I said, "Wow, this is a subject that I have been wanting to talk about." With my son, he has adopted his outlook on African-American women based on a few black women acting out of character. Who's to say they really was acting out of character? They could have been expressing themselves. Everybody has a right to.

For me, it's one thing to love someone because they have great qualities about them than to love someone who you can run over. If you tell them to jump, they jump. Without an explanation. A real woman is going to want to know why they're jumping.

Let's do this together. A lot of men in this generation want women who they can pressure them to do what they want them to do. So stereotyping leads to some of these interracial relationships. Which is a problem that can lead to divorce (if married) or break up of the couples. Some of our women feel the same about our black men. Feel that they are drama so they go get in a relationship with the opposite race only for the relationship to fail. We got to stereotyping who we be with and how they "should be."

The second big failure: an idealistic mindset of males and females. Oral sex, strippers, seducing, and nights of exotic fun. A lot of men and women end up marrying or getting into a relationship because of what the partners done for them in strip clubs, bars, and/or how good they performed sex on them. Which is a poor reason to be in an interracial relationship. A lot of the times this is how it happens. After a couple of wild sexual encounters, suddenly the decision is made to be together forever as a couple. It ends up being a relationship based on benefits.

One thing I know about every women: they look for our black guys' weakest point. Our African-American men are weak for oral sex. Some will sell their soul for good oral sex. Just like now in this generation, some women will sex their soul for oral sex. Nothing is not wrong with being a sexual being. But when it haves you getting into the wrong relationship for the wrong reasons or doing things out of your character, you need to seek sex-addiction counseling. Some of our interracial children are coming through their relationship not because they want children but because of sexual benefits, only to be left to the foster care and adoption agencies to take care of.

To me, that is sad with any race. Who brings children into the world just because of a night of fun? This is the part I don't like about interracial relationships: when it's really based on sexual relationships. Not substance of a healthy foundation. That is why so many divorces are happening now.

Written by
Jennifer Johnson