July 12, 2022

Comment response

by Daniel L. Van deBogart (author's profile)
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Comment Response
(May 31, 2022)


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Hello there, it's been a long time. I hope all is well with you.

Your question surprised me. I assure you and Nancy had a closer enough relationship that you would have at least gotten a hint as to how close she and I truly were.

Yes, I loved her deeply and have carried that love with me all these years after her passing.

Nancy did so much for me. She helped me to see my place in the world, to understand how I had gotten to the dark place in my life, to come to terms with the things I had done and accept responsibility.

She gave me the courage to consider the man I wanted to be and the encouragement to make the necessary changes to realize that.

Look—we all have struggles.

If you knew Nancy well, then you know she had struggles of her own. But that never kept her from being there for me.

We were very honest with each other, and we both understood the limitations incarceration put on our marriage.

Yet, in spite of it all, she shared a closeness that I feel very fortunate to have been a part of.

I miss her.

I am grateful to you, Stephanie, for introducing us. You have no reason to be sad about that. We were good for each other. The relationship worked so well because we both needed someone to share that level of openness without judgment—being able to expose your soul to another human being is a very powerful emotional connection that opens the world while providing a safe place to just be real.

Yes, I loved and love Nancy.

Be well. I hope this eases your concern. Be happy. She was, and is, as loved as much as she loved.



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