Dec. 1, 2016

What is Love?

by Jennifer Johnson (author's profile)

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What is Love?

Love is defined as a deep, tender feeling of affection and solicitude towards a person such as that arising from kinship or a sense of oneness. Another definition of love says a feeling of intense desire and attraction towards a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

However, even for myself, I didn't know what real love looked like or even what it was. Growing up, I was never taught the true ordeal about love. Everybody I came in contact with would show me the tainted way to love. So I grew up feeling that I had to be disloyal, standoffish, and not trust anyone. I had a huge wall up because my trust had been violated so many times. When I did let my guard down, I got hurt by boyfriends, parents, friends, cousins, and some neighbors. I grew up feeling like I had to do the men in before they hurt me. I had in my mind that I had to always had to defend myself 'cause nobody else would.

But today I know what true love is supposed to be, feel, and look like. First I had to learn to love myself before I could love someone else. I have corrected my wrong beliefs, ideas, attitude, patterns of thinking, mindset, and strong-held thinking about love. I have been reading this book titled Beyond Shattered Strongholds by Liberty Savard. This is from her book Influence the World.

There is a perfect list of the ways that we should always act towards others. This is a list of ways to act that shows us what to strive for so that we can be better.

Love never gives up:
*Love always sticks through thick and thin with a friend
*Love never turns its back on a family member in need
*Love never stops reaching out to strangers in need just because it backfired the last time

Love cares more for others than for self
*Love sits up all night in a hospital waiting room with a frightened parent
*Love gives surly teenagers a second chance
*Love gives always a favorite coat to a shivering stranger when it is snowing

Love doesn't want what it doesn't have
*Love doesn't covet other people's blessings
*Love isn't greedy
*Love appreciates everything

Love doesn't strut and doesn't have a swollen head
*Love is never proud and haughty
*Love humbly accepts whatever comes its way
*Love is a good listener

Love isn't always "me first"
*Love thinks of the other person's needs before it worries about its own
*Love gives room to those who push in front of it and it does it with a smile
*Love helps others to get ahead without concern for its own position

Love doesn't fly off the handle
*Love is patient
*Love overlooks other people's faults and differences
*Love always count to one hundred when someone is being difficult

Love doesn't keep score of the sins of others
*Love doesn't make lists and keep books on other people's actions
*Love always overlooks other people's faults
*Love never refuses to forgive just because someone has done the same thing thirty times before

Love never revels when others grovel
*Love never wants someone who doesn't make it to be uncomfortable
*Love never wants others to be embarrassed or humiliated
*Love never laughs at someone who finally gets "paid back"

Love takes pleasure in the flowering of the truth
*Love is always pleased when someone is acquitted of an accusation
*Love is protective of the one who confuses a falsehood
*Love rejoices with those who stand up for what is right

Love puts up with anything
*Love never stops being kind to someone who is mean and spiteful
*Love always acts with grace and mercy
*Love never reacts to another's bad attitude

Love trusts God always
*Love prays for God's will to be done in others with great blessing
*Love knows that God's word can always be trusted
*Love has trust and confidence in the goodness, wisdom, and power of God

Love always looks for the best
*Love always look for good in people that God seen in them
*Love always believes for the potential that God is working out in others
*Love always knows that God is working in every situation and every life

Love never looks back, but keeps going to the end
*Love never holds another's past actions against them
*Love tries to find something good in every person's actions
*Love will always walk hand in hand through hard times with others

Written by Jennifer Johnson

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@mkd16 Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years, 1 month ago   Favorite
Dear Jennifer,

This was a thoughtful and beautiful post, thank you.

I've added the book you mentioned to my reading list. I really appreciated how you summarized the key points. That's exactly what I do when I read a thought-provoking book too!

Best,
mkd

hmtpsych Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years, 1 month ago   Favorite
Jennifer,

I think you have chosen the most worthy of all endeavors: Coming to understand and live into the understanding of Love!

You have given me encouragement today, and as someone who works with people in pain, it is a needed gift. Thank you.

God's blessings on all the love you will continue to give and receive.

In peace,
Holly

efs Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years, 1 month ago   Favorite
Dear Jennifer,

I am so happy for you to be able to speak so thoughtfully and eloquently about love. I hope that all of us can keep the truth of love in our hearts and remember these words. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.

Be well,
efs

reader Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years, 1 month ago   Favorite
Dear Jennifer,

Keep loving yourself, you are worth it.

kf

jthing27 Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years, 1 month ago   Favorite
Dear Jennifer,

Thanks for your willingness to share and your generosity of spirit.

Sincerely,
rsw

reader3 Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years, 1 month ago   Favorite
So beautiful and so well said. You have a gift! Love is often all we have and it's so important to remember. Thank you for sharing!

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