June 13, 2017

How To Bounce Back From A Hurt?

by Jennifer Johnson (author's profile)

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How to bounce back from a hurt?

Relationships, friendship, stranger acquaintance, family co-worker and church hurt

I know you like wow, so how do you recover? In order to answer that I have to share a little about me. I've encountered the jealousy, gossiping, cheating, physical and mental abuse - people wanting to control me. When they seen I had a mind of my own things would be said and done to me that was hurtful. These individuals tried to make me feel like I was wrong for speaking up. Some of these relationship I had invested my all into it. Some of these relationship was the people who was my own blood. Let's go over a few of my worst hurts what laid to bounce back.

(1) My mom didn't want me at birth. So she did all kinds of hurtful things to me during my growing up and as adult. She spread false rumors, tried to get me fired off jobs, put witchcraft in my yard and apartment, put me in prison, not only does she do hurtful things to me but she has put my cousin them in prison. Which they are better towards her. So how has I handle the hurts and mad woman on the inside of my mother.
My great grandma taught me tho at an early age

Mt.5:32 First step in restoring relationship
Are your actions today helping your relationships grow stronger or are you tearing it apart?

Mt.6:14,15 It is easy to ask God for forgiveness, but difficult to grant it to others. Whenever we ask God to forgive us for sin, we should ask ourselves, "Have I forgiven the people who have wronged me?"

Mt.5:23,24 Broken relationships can hinder our relationship with God and create problems with yourself personally if we have a problem or grievance with a relationship we should resolve the problem as soon as possible. Our attitudes toward others reflect our relationship with God and us as individuals.

don't withhold it from others Mt18:35
Because God has forgiven all our sins, we should not withhold forgiveness from others, realizing how completely Christ has forgiven us should produce a free and generous attitude of forgiveness toward others, when we don't forgive others, we are setting ourselves outside and above Christ's law of love.

Changes 101 Hennwots way Luke 15:30
In the story of the lost son, the father's response is contrasted with the older brother's. The father forgave because he was filled with love. The son refused to forgive because he was bitter, his resentment rendered him just as lost to the father's love as his younger brother had been. Don't let anything keep you from forgiving others. If you are refusing to forgive people, you are missing a wonderful opportunity to experience joy and share it with others. Make your joy grow: forgive somebody who has hurt you.
So how did I deal with the situation with mother. I wrote her a long letter tell how I felt about everything. She wrote me & she apologized. But her behaviors didn't stop. So each time she would try to continue to hurt me, I would express but it didn't do any good. Sometimes she would acknowledge what she did and apologize. Other times she would deny it. So I said to myself maybe if I open the door physically for her to visit me, things would change but they didn't. She was even worse face to face. Was I pissed off and was becoming bitter about the whole situation. Why for myself when I forgive and apologize. I am sincere but you have people who purpose hurt people. When they confronted, they apologize but it's not real. So what do you? When the person is like this. They have become a stumbling block in your pathway, trying to ruin your life. (You change and let them go about their business. Stop contacting them - you cannot change and work on nobody but self - so in order to grow you have to let some people go, like me it was my mother in this instance. But this can be a friend, sibling, marriage, or just the next-door neighbor. We need to cut these soul ties, so we can be free in our spirit. Forgiveness can be walking away and not dealing with that person again. My question to you today who is a stumbling block in your life that you need to let go of? It could be your own child or grandchild. It could be the person who causes you to go into a fit of rage. For the individual, any relationship, practice, or activity that leads to sin should be stopped. Jesus says it would be better to go to heaven with one hand than to hell with both. Sin, of course, affects more than our hands; it affects our minds and hearts. How many times you have felt like you were going to lose your mind deal with this person? Because of all the heavy burdens they put on you. Hebrews 12: "This great cloud of witnesses is composed of the people described chapter 11 of Hebrews the fourth chapter. Their faithfulness is a constant encouragement to us. We do not struggle alone and we are not the first to struggle with the problems we face. Others have run the race ad won and their witness stirs us to run and win a lot. What an inspiring heritage we house! Long-distance runners work hard to build endurance and strength. On race day their clothes are lightweight and their bodies lean. To run the race that God has set before us, we must also strip off the excess weight that slows us down. How can we do that? (1.) Choose friends who are also committed to the race, wrong friends will have values and activities that may deter you from the course. Much of your own weight may result from the crowd you run with. Make wise choices. (2.) Drop certain activities. That is, for you at this time there may be weight. Try dropping those for a while; then check the results in your life (3.) Get help for addictions and co-dependency of unhealthy relationships in your life. If you have a secret weight such as pornography, gambling, strip clubs, adult entertainment or alcohol, admit your need and get help today. After I let go of that unhealthy relationship with my mom, siblings, and friends, the weight has lifted off my shoulders. I get up every morning & feel good. I have no contact with them at all. I pray for them daily. Another thing that was weighing me down was my job as a supervisor on the

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