20 Sept 11

Montana Mike and Family,
Okay, Mike. I want to communicate more. And you want me to communicate less. So more or less, our relationship depends on it.

Look, bro... every relationship depends on it, be that with your spouse, your kids, your pets, your employees/employer, etc. Every relationship depends upon three key ingredients: Affinity, Reality, and Communication. Cut or hamper any one of these three, and the other two suffer until the relationship becomes strained and eventually ceases to be any real relationship at all.

For instance, what sort of relationship can there be if I speak a language that you don't understand? You and I cannot share nor understand the other's Reality of dislikes/likes or expectations, our mutual beliefs, or...? Do you see how this hampered Communication hampers our shared Reality? Can there be any Affinity in this hampered relationship then? Think about this—PLEASE.

Hey, I'm not even sure what language your silence is, bro. I try to use my imagination to interpret what it is you're not saying. But for some reason, I always fear it is the worst. And because I fear the worst in what you're not saying to me, I naturally try to just stay away from you and not involve you in my Reality. You see how that works?

Okay, this isn't just about our A.R.C., bro. It's about your A.R.C. relationships—all of them. How do you feel these three ingredients affect them?

Really, dude, it's a wonder that you're not divorced—yet! Even the hospital has a restraining order on you! And I've heard the way you shout and threaten your own kids—who talk to you the same way, you say. Your relationships suck, dude! Your relationship with hospital staff, with your kids, with your wife? Hell, even your dogs run into you and trip you!

Let's wonder why, shall we? The Affinity aspect of A.R.C. sucks! Why don't you try to take an honest look at the Reality you most often tend to Communicate? You're always expressing so much love and consideration for others, right? A good Christian like yourself probably tends to deny yourself any rights about the rights of anybody else, right? Your humility is only surpassed by your patience, right?

Oh no, wait! You're in terrible pain, right? So damn all the healthy people who disregard your authority, right? Isn't this the Reality which you Communicate? It's no wonder why Affinity is hampered in your relationships—and why your giant dogs are so "accident prone" with you (do they bump into and trip other people, bro?). Really, dude, how many people do the hospital actually have restraining orders on?

I love you, bro, and I'd be less of a friend if I didn't point these things out for you to consider. I will not sit entombed watching you die by degrees! This is why I shout this Truth to you! My Affinity is so real that I need to Communicate this Reality I perceive. Now I pray that your Affinity for me is valued enough for you to reply and Communicate the Reality which you perceive. This is how I think relationships function, loved one.

Listen, I've told you several times about my blogsite and about opening communication lines with my kids, and even about the artwork I've posted there. So when you told me that you still haven't went into cyberspace to check it out for yourself, it seemed to me that you were clearly letting me know how much you really just don't care about my Reality.

And now your finances have budgeted me to two collect calls per month, and your pain prohibits you from writing? Well, you've got www access, so I'm just going to get along with modern technology and post kites to you on my blogsite. Hopefully you will use the comments section on anything you see on my site. When you reply to my kites to you. I'd also appreciate it if you'd give Mersly, the kids, Winston, Steve, etc. all my http://betweenthebars.org/blogs/420 site too so that they can join in and post their comments when they're out surfing the web.

I do wish you all, all the best. Please do your best to keep the A.R.C. in mind in all your relationships beloved.

Be Blessed