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Ronald W. Clark Jr.
November 25, 2012
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"Don't Understand"
I just don't understand it. I've seen women whose gene's contain cancer, breast cancer. So they have both breasts removed in order to not develop breast cancer. Which is probably a smart idea. That's not the part that I don't understand. No-the part I don't understand is these women turn right around and talk about having children. Bringing a child into the world with the same DNA gene that contains the possibility of cancer. So now that child will have to suffer the same fears that she's currently suffering. And why?
Having children is a very selfish act. It's either done out of lust or the "individual wanting" to bring a child into this world, for their own selfish reasons, to fulfill their wants and desires. No, I just don't understand it. You live in despair and fear of this gene, yet you then want to bring a child into this world to experience the same despair and fears that you're having to live with.
Humans, our selfishness is amazing! Me, me, me! Yes it's all about me, at least that's the way I see it.
Ronald W. Clark Jr.
November 25, 2012
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I think I know what you mean and there are indeed alot of couples wanting to have children where I do agree with you.
For example, I don´t really understand why some people think they have a right to have everything without any compromise: A big fat career for him and for her as well - and of course, one or more children (if you are a Hollywood actor, you don´t even take the suffering to bear it but let another woman give birth to your child) to have heirs and when they´re small, to have such a little sweet doll in your arms - and then they´re given away to a nanny or somewhere else, only fetched in the evening and they don´t have a real relationship with their physical parents.
I even heard doctors from a hospital which does artificial fertilisation (don´t know the right term, hope you understand what I mean) say: Single women also have a right to have a child.
THAT´S indeed selfish. A right to have a child?
A child is a gift by God, not a right to have.
On the other hand, I also know people who, for example, had a wonderful childhood with loving parents and who want to give such a childhood to another little human being and love it into life.
I wouldn´t call such parents selfish - although, a little selfishness does belong to it, otherwise manhood wouldn´t exist anymore, I guess. ;-)))
The personal wish to have children is necessary to keep a species alive....
But I do understand your point with the illness.
My mom is ill too and needs medicine throughout her life, and when she and my Dad married they asked a doctor if children could inherit that illness (a kind of what we call "Epilepsie").
He said no and so we were born....
My parents wouldn´t have got children if we could have got that illness as well.
Hope my first sentence wasn´t too hurtful.
It´s just, you know, that many people want to have some love and care within a family just like you want it in a relationship. That´s, in general, quite natural and not necessarily especially selfish.
Well, I guess you can´t escape from knowing if you have cancer genes.
If there were many cases of cancer in your family already, then it´s more than likely you have those genes too.
"Please don´t bring God into it" -
Ronnie, it´s completely up to you to say you don´t believe in a God (or at least not in a loving God).
But if you want to get comments, you´ll have to accept that people thinking different write their opinion. This contains God too, if the comment writer is a believer.
Of course, I can stop leaving such comments if that´s your wish, but then it would mean I´d stop reading your blogposts.
You don´t like if someone tells you what to write and what not, right?
Same with me. No one forces you to agree and to change your own mind. But I want to be free to leave more than only what you´d like to hear (especially as that doesn´t attack you).
Besides I see another point:
It´s not only you reading the comments.
Who knows who the others are, what doubts they have and which other opinions than yours may help them along?
My faith is very important to me and so I´ll try to say something to answer possible questions as good as I can - if not for you, then maybe for others.
The author Franz Werfel wrote as an idiom at the beginning of the novel "Das Lied von Bernadette" (means "The song of Bernadette" - no idea under which title it was published in English):
For the one who wants to believe, there´s enough light, and for the one who doesn´t, enough darkness.