Sept. 1, 2014

Friends Are Few And Far Between

From Prison Dad by Robert Pezzeca (author's profile)

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Friends are Few and Far Between

August 18,2014: 10:50am: listening to: Asylum; by Disturbed
Friends are so few and far between. Sure you can know a lot of people but that doesn't make them your friends. I am amazed at the relationship I have with my brother JJ. We are not just brothers but friends as well and I for one never imagined that we would even be brothers. So this is special to me. I sent out a letter this past week or two to about 20 people I know in my life. Family, friends, people I don't even speak to any more for whatever the reason. I am including a copy of that letter at the end of this. If anyone would like to help, I would be very grateful and forever in your debt. This is all for my daughter and I don't seek any credit for it. I just want to do what I can for Krista. This past week was a very scary and worrisome week. I barely slept. My mom was rushed to the hospital and my brother thought she was dying. She had a massive seizure that they couldn't stop or control. I have not heard him cry since we were kids. So I knew it was serious but after 4 days in the ICU the hospital said she was well enough to go home and they kicked her out. So mom is now home and waiting to get the test results of her bone marrow biopsy. I talked to her this morning and she is very drained and feeling sick but doing better. We talked about all the little deer in her yard that eat from the deer feeder. I also learned that my daughter Krista did go to the new foster home. Krista thinks I put too much pressure on her but I'm only trying to help her have a better future. She doesn't believe it herself and I'm trying to help build her self-esteem. Well I guess this is all for today. Please read the following page and help me get the word out. Thank you very much. Take care, stay safe and God bless. Ciao. (Thought this picture was adorable)

I've looked at this picture over 100 times and it continues to make me smile. So I wanted to share it. A big fully grown dog and a baby deer, it's adorable.

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Jen215 Posted 10 years, 3 months ago. ✓ Mailed 10 years, 3 months ago   Favorite
Hey Robbie, I'm Jen, I was googling "prison dad" and your blog came up, to my surprise I realized I "kind of" know you. A friend of mine used to date your brother J.J. like 9/10 years ago (awesome guy, that Christmas was my sons first and it was without his father who passed away and J.J. came through with a $100 Toys R Us gift certificate for him and saved the day!) I know Dawn and have met Bev, I was actually friends with Justine in school and had no idea what had happened to her until I read your blog (I am so sorry for your loss she was a great girl, I still cant believe it) Anyway I was told of your situation before hand so when I realized whos blog it was I was shocked! Small world... but anyways I just wanted to let you know that I'll pray for you and your fam... I hope your mom is ok and the stories about your daughter just break my heart so she will also be in thoughts and prayers. I wish I could give her something now but I am struggling myself with the 2 kids I have, but trust and believe one day if and when I have it I would like to do something for her, anything she needs. Just like J.J. did for me. People might think im nuts even writing this but I feel like nobody is perfect and who am I to judge? I just know sometimes kind words and knowing someone out there is thinkin positive for you can go a long way... you all will be in my prayers! (Tell J.J. Kellys friend Jen from the Boro says thanks!)

CJP Posted 10 years, 3 months ago. ✓ Mailed 10 years, 3 months ago   Favorite
Thanks for writing! I finished the transcription for your post. I wish your daughter the very best.

Robert Pezzeca Posted 10 years, 2 months ago.   Favorite
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Jen215 Posted 10 years, 2 months ago. ✓ Mailed 10 years, 2 months ago   Favorite
Hey Robbie!
I was so happy to see you received my post! I didnt realize to communicate through this site actually takes longer than the usual snail/jail mail lol! I hoped that a small note could make you feel a lil better,not that I said anything spectacular or life changing but sometimes a little kindness goes a long way! I'm really sorry about your mom, and I know serious the diagnosis is but one thing I know about Bev, she is a tough cookie! One of the strongest women I have ever met... a survivor... everything will be ok. Send my love to her! (She might not remember me its been a long time!) Now that I think of it Dawn helped me out right before that with a Halloween costume for my son that year, I think it was one of her oldest sons (Ronnie?), a black skeleton with blue bones. Everyone in your family was good to me, really nice people. I'm glad I could thank J.J. again through you. Times were unbelievably rough back then and Kelly was around a lot for me, we had been friends since we were 12 and she was really supportive, but then J.J. who I had pretty much just met, but knew he was going through hell in his life too, did that for us, I was like, wow, what a seriously amazing person. Kelly and J.J. were a mess together for sure, but they both have hearts of gold! I'm glad to see J.J. is doing good and his daughter is beautiful! I wish him and his family all the best! As for Justine, she was awesome too, I didnt graduate with her she was older I graduated 2 yrs after. I didnt see her too much outside of school, we lived on opposite sides of Bensalem, and after her graduation I never saw her again. I just remember that smile, her laugh, and that blonde hair and glasses! I think I have one of her old school pics, black shirt and headband, ill look for it! Just know that she is ALWAYS with you, its true! Oh and you asked what made me google prison dad... My daughter who is now 8 has a father who has been in and out since we were 17, we are now 32. He came out on a 5 yr trip upstate at 22 he knew my sons father had passed and promised me he'd take care of us, we were best friends as kids and I was the only one who stayed consistent with visits from bucks, to Graterford, to Camphill, to Smithfield (which is realllly freaking far) to some place in Chester and letters all the time no matter where I was in life, my sons father hated him and always fought with me for keeping in touch with him. He comes home I have a baby and he starts getting high, you know the rest i'm sure. Happens all the time, anyways he has been gone since she was 2 and I have a fiancee who is amazing to her (we have been together for 6 years so its all she knows) but she knows that's not her dad (mostly because they are different races) I know for a while she thought my sons dad who passed away, was her dad, but I had to tell her that's just his dad. ITS SO COMPLICATED! (Continued on next post, too long for 1 post)

Jen215 Posted 10 years, 2 months ago. ✓ Mailed 10 years, 2 months ago   Favorite
Shes never out right asked "wheres my dad" but I know one day I have to explain it. I don't want to say welll he really didnt care about us, hes a heroin addict who steals and shoots at people so hes most likely in jail. So I googled it to see what to do! Its crazy because I have seen addiction I know what it does I know how hard it is to over come and I have empathy and sympathy for everyone and anyone on anything, EXCEPT for him, I have zero. There is no excuse for not pulling his self together for my daughter. (Sorry that was a rant but he really upsets me) But yea that's how I found your blog! I though it was pretty cool that they would give you guys an outlet to speak to the world. Then I realized it was you, I just had to say something. The love that you have for Krista, it just breaks my heart that here is this man, who aches for his kid, would do anything to be with her, why wouldn't my daughters father do the same? He had a chance to right his wrongs... several times... and he chose not to, you don't even get the chance and I bet if they let you go today you'd never look back, on the strength of your daughter. It's just crazy. Well now that I have told you damn near my life story lol I guess we do know each other lol! I'll keep in touch here and there if you promise to keep your head up! I know you said you feel forgotten sometimes, but I know Bev, Krista and J.J. for sure need you to stay strong, you are important, and even though time moves on, friends fade (it happens on the outside too!) the people that really matter will always need and want you there. Talk to you soon and God bless!

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