Oct. 10, 2020

Dear Immature Parents

by Dymitri Haraszewski (author's profile)

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Harzewski Dear Immature Parents 9-10-20
Blog #1660 (America's Funniest Home traumatizations, Redux)

A few posts back (Aug. 12, 2020), I wrote about an unfunny video Id seen on one of my favorite TV shows, America's Funniest Home Videos. Turns out, there's a whole recent trend of similarly unkind videos, and I wonder whether you folks, readers of this blog, have seen them? I'm sure they're all over the internet, videos of adults, presumably parents, recording themselves basically lip-synching to their children's angry outbursts. The "joke" here is supposed to be that these overwhelmed parents are so in-tune with their frustrated kids' cries that they can perfectly time and imitate every screaming demand and breathy, burbling sob in the "temper tantrum". The parent typically holds an expressionless face, then bursts into a pseudo-shriek that makes it look like the child's voice is coming from the adults mouth. Hilarious right?
Ok, I admit, I can see how one might laugh, especially at the perfect timing and incongruity of Mom or Dad suddenly ranting like a frustrated 5-year-old. It looks silly. And I also get that the videos that aren't fakes (many seem staged, to me), those take some talent to mimic so accurately, and yes, it's gotta be frustrating for a parent to hear the screeching cries for 10 minutes, half an hour, or even longer. I get it; people need to vent without taking it out directly on the kid. Problem is... it's super mean.
No doubt no one likes to be mocked, yet we've all mocked others at times. It's a passive aggression that most people are guilty of. I've done it. I still do it; it makes me feel a little better when I'm essentially powerless. Not having kids myself, though, perhaps I can be forgiven for failing to grasp why parents should feel so powerless as to need to mock their own sons and daughters.
Here's my thoughts on this - if you feel you must lash out a little, in a basically harmless way, just to maintain sanity, fine... but for chrissake, don't then share your mean-spirited imitation of your offspring with others! Just keep it between yourself and the void. Honestly, to publicize such self-indulgent exploitation... are these parents so enamored with their own child-degradation skills that they feel compelled to show them off - along with their kids' less-than-proudest moments - to the whole freakin' world? How will the kids feel when they inevitably see the vids in a few years, probably with a collection of digital high-fives for the adults and some nasty comments for the "whiny brats" being mimicked? Maybe embarrassed? Maybe humiliated? Betrayed? Surely many will feel at least that, and rightly so, I'd say - they're had a shameful private moment broadcast to earn a parent some "likes" by making their own child look, well, childish. They'll eventually see how the online chatterati shallowly disregards the fact that, in that moment, however nerve-frayingly ridiculous the "tantrum" seems to adult sensibilities, the kid had a very real experience of distress, and their own parents chose to exploit that anguish by showcasing it for the amusement of millions of strangers.
Just ask yourself, would you like your private unhappiness and overreactions to be not only made public, but publicly made fun of...and that by the people you trusted most? Dear immature parents: Please stop whoring yourselves out for cheap, minimal fame at your kids' expense. Don't be selfish ducks; after all, even very young [?] are still people. Respect them, right?

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rashtie Posted 1 month, 3 weeks ago. ✓ Mailed 1 month, 3 weeks ago   Favorite
Thanks for writing! I worked on the transcription for your post. I didn't have enough time to finish, but you're a really good writer!

msasdi Posted 1 month, 3 weeks ago. ✓ Mailed 1 month, 3 weeks ago   Favorite
Dear Immature Parents (America's Funniest Home Traumatizations, Redux) Haraszewski 6/10/20

A few posts back (Aug. 12. 2020), I write about an unfunny vdeo I'd seen on one of my favorite TV shows, America's Funniest Home Videos. Turns out, there's a whole recent trendof similarly unkind videos, and I wonder whether you folks, readers of this blog, have seen them? I'm sure they're all over the internet, videos of adults, presumably parents, recording themselves basically lip-synching to their children's angry outbursts. The "joke" here is sypposed to be that these overwhelemed parents are so in-tun with thier frustrated kids' cries that they can perfectly time and imitate every screaming demand and breathy, burbling sob in the "temper tantrum". The parent typically holds an expressionless face, then bursts into pseudo- shriek that makes it look like the child's voice is coming from the adults mouth. Hilarious, right?
Ok, so I admit, I can see how one might laugh especially at the perfect timing and incongruity of Mom or Dad suddenly ranting like a frustrated 5-year-old. It looks silly. Also I get that the videos that aren't fakes (many seemed staged, to me), those take some talent to mimic so accuratley, and yes, it's gotta be frustrating for a parent to hear the screeching cries for 10 minutes, half and hour, or even longer. I get it; people need to vent without taking it out directly on the kid. Problem is...it's super man.
No doubt no one likes to be mocked, yet we've all mocked others at times. It's a passive aggression that most people are guilty of. I've done it. I still do it; It makes me feel a little better when I'm essentially powerless. Not having kids myself, though, perhaps, I can be forgiven for failing to grasp why parents should feel so powerless as to need to mock their own sons and daughters.
Here's my thought on this- if you feel you must lash out a little in a basically harmless way, just to maintain sanity, fine...but for crissake, don't then sahre your mean-spirited imitation of your offspring with others! Just keep it between yourself and the void. Honestly to publicize such self-indulgent exploitation...are these parents so enamored with their own child-degradation skills that they feel compelled to show them off- along with their kids less-than-proudest moments- to the whole freakin world? How will the kids feel when the inevitably see the vids in a few years, probably with a collection of digital high-fives for the adults and some nasty comments for the "whiny brats" being mimicked? Maybe embarrassed? Maybe humiliated? Betrayed? Surely many will feel at least that, and rightly so, I'd say- they've had a shameful private moment broadcast to earn a parent some "likes" by making their own child look, well childish. They'll eventually see how the online chatterati shallowly disregards the fact, in that moment, however nerve-frayingly ridiculous the "tantrum" seems to adult sensibilities, the kid had a very real

service_ Posted 1 month, 2 weeks ago. ✓ Mailed 3 days, 10 hours ago   Favorite
Just finished up transcribing this. Thanks for writing!

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