Hi William, thank you for writing. I finished the transcription for your post. Your words were very moving, and I cannot imagine what it's been like over the past couple of decades, but I want to wish you the best of luck with the reintegration process.
SISTERS I have a sister that refuses to forgive me for the crimes I done when I was under the influence of alcohol. The crime happened in 1990-almost a life time ago. I do understand her anger & fear. Two of my sisters love me unconditionally. As we get older we think differently and treat others unselfishly especially family. Isn't that what growing up is. I do wonder if she'll ever write, But if she don't I wish her the best that life could provide for her. Theres no reason to process ill feelings toward her. Shes never done anything offensive toward me. I guess what Im trying to say. Is don't waste time love your siblings one day we'll all be gone.
Dear Immature Parents (America's Funniest Home Traumatizations, Redux) Haraszewski 6/10/20
A few posts back (Aug. 12. 2020), I write about an unfunny vdeo I'd seen on one of my favorite TV shows, America's Funniest Home Videos. Turns out, there's a whole recent trendof similarly unkind videos, and I wonder whether you folks, readers of this blog, have seen them? I'm sure they're all over the internet, videos of adults, presumably parents, recording themselves basically lip-synching to their children's angry outbursts. The "joke" here is sypposed to be that these overwhelemed parents are so in-tun with thier frustrated kids' cries that they can perfectly time and imitate every screaming demand and breathy, burbling sob in the "temper tantrum". The parent typically holds an expressionless face, then bursts into pseudo- shriek that makes it look like the child's voice is coming from the adults mouth. Hilarious, right? Ok, so I admit, I can see how one might laugh especially at the perfect timing and incongruity of Mom or Dad suddenly ranting like a frustrated 5-year-old. It looks silly. Also I get that the videos that aren't fakes (many seemed staged, to me), those take some talent to mimic so accuratley, and yes, it's gotta be frustrating for a parent to hear the screeching cries for 10 minutes, half and hour, or even longer. I get it; people need to vent without taking it out directly on the kid. Problem is...it's super man. No doubt no one likes to be mocked, yet we've all mocked others at times. It's a passive aggression that most people are guilty of. I've done it. I still do it; It makes me feel a little better when I'm essentially powerless. Not having kids myself, though, perhaps, I can be forgiven for failing to grasp why parents should feel so powerless as to need to mock their own sons and daughters. Here's my thought on this- if you feel you must lash out a little in a basically harmless way, just to maintain sanity, fine...but for crissake, don't then sahre your mean-spirited imitation of your offspring with others! Just keep it between yourself and the void. Honestly to publicize such self-indulgent exploitation...are these parents so enamored with their own child-degradation skills that they feel compelled to show them off- along with their kids less-than-proudest moments- to the whole freakin world? How will the kids feel when the inevitably see the vids in a few years, probably with a collection of digital high-fives for the adults and some nasty comments for the "whiny brats" being mimicked? Maybe embarrassed? Maybe humiliated? Betrayed? Surely many will feel at least that, and rightly so, I'd say- they've had a shameful private moment broadcast to earn a parent some "likes" by making their own child look, well childish. They'll eventually see how the online chatterati shallowly disregards the fact, in that moment, however nerve-frayingly ridiculous the "tantrum" seems to adult sensibilities, the kid had a very real
Thanks for writing! I finished the transcription for your post. Your love note was so sweet and straight from the heart. Your words made me smile as I read them. Have a wonderful day.
Hello Kelly. Been reading your posts for a long time. There are many inmate blogs on the internet, some more popular than others. Between the Bars strikes a good balance between them. The state of America’s prison system and the captives that fall foul of the law system are laid bare now for the world to read. Some of the conditions and issues bloggers reveal here make conditions in third world countries with despotic rulers look like Club Med. You seem upbeat and clearly determined to negotiate the passage of time with Euro Pop and a touch of ironically placed schadenfreude. It must be difficult in the prison system as an openly gay man. Even though, I suspect, ‘The odds are good, but the goods are odd’ numbers of potential companionship in your favour. I wouldn’t do well in a double or more occupied cell. I don’t play well with others.! Also I’m old and grumpy now. Being once part of Europe, now separated for them via Brexit I hope our divorce will be amicable. In that they can keep their music. I did enjoy Plastic Bertrands rendering of Ca Plane Pour Moi, which was an amusing little ditty I hope you heard. We have been blessed with American music for a while now, and ai much prefer this. Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder, who I saw in concert, Earth Wind and Fire etc. Pretty much soul, R&B Rap too. Whenever my kids chide me about my age and preference for rap I remind them the Snoop Dogg etc are all in their middle years too. . I have seen Priscilla Queen of the Desert several times. It was actually a West End show for a while, still might be, it ages well. I take my daughter to London Pride every year. It’s always a good vibe. Pretty much anything happening in London always is, it’s a great city. What cities in your country do you think have a good energy about them? Hope you are well and eluding the virus. Look after yourself. T
Dear Kelly, your favorite catastrophic force of nature, oh my, you make me blush! Well, I guess those people who did have thought of this happening in our lifetimes are either virologists or depressed - seems one is actually more realistic when depressed, a friend who is a psychologist told me once. You wrote that the situation is boring, makes me think of the satire article I read today, how tired people are of corona virus, and that they are looking forward to a new, fresh virus. Ouch. It's true that we really are used to a quicker news cycle than corona is giving us now, and not really an end in sight. Apparently, our statistics are worse right now than USA, well, with what a small country can be great... But we recently got the strong advice to wear masks inside. Mind you, only advice, because "we all are adults in this country". Yes, right. Except, actually, no. Anyways, not gonna bore you more with that, warm greetings, all the best, and stormy greetings, Julia
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I have a sister that refuses to forgive me for the crimes I done when I was under the influence of alcohol. The crime happened in 1990-almost a life time ago.
I do understand her anger & fear. Two of my sisters love me unconditionally. As we get older we think differently and treat others unselfishly especially family. Isn't that what growing up is.
I do wonder if she'll ever write, But if she don't I wish her the best that life could provide for her. Theres no reason to process ill feelings toward her. Shes never done anything offensive toward me. I guess what Im trying to say. Is don't waste time love your siblings one day we'll all be gone.
A few posts back (Aug. 12. 2020), I write about an unfunny vdeo I'd seen on one of my favorite TV shows, America's Funniest Home Videos. Turns out, there's a whole recent trendof similarly unkind videos, and I wonder whether you folks, readers of this blog, have seen them? I'm sure they're all over the internet, videos of adults, presumably parents, recording themselves basically lip-synching to their children's angry outbursts. The "joke" here is sypposed to be that these overwhelemed parents are so in-tun with thier frustrated kids' cries that they can perfectly time and imitate every screaming demand and breathy, burbling sob in the "temper tantrum". The parent typically holds an expressionless face, then bursts into pseudo- shriek that makes it look like the child's voice is coming from the adults mouth. Hilarious, right?
Ok, so I admit, I can see how one might laugh especially at the perfect timing and incongruity of Mom or Dad suddenly ranting like a frustrated 5-year-old. It looks silly. Also I get that the videos that aren't fakes (many seemed staged, to me), those take some talent to mimic so accuratley, and yes, it's gotta be frustrating for a parent to hear the screeching cries for 10 minutes, half and hour, or even longer. I get it; people need to vent without taking it out directly on the kid. Problem is...it's super man.
No doubt no one likes to be mocked, yet we've all mocked others at times. It's a passive aggression that most people are guilty of. I've done it. I still do it; It makes me feel a little better when I'm essentially powerless. Not having kids myself, though, perhaps, I can be forgiven for failing to grasp why parents should feel so powerless as to need to mock their own sons and daughters.
Here's my thought on this- if you feel you must lash out a little in a basically harmless way, just to maintain sanity, fine...but for crissake, don't then sahre your mean-spirited imitation of your offspring with others! Just keep it between yourself and the void. Honestly to publicize such self-indulgent exploitation...are these parents so enamored with their own child-degradation skills that they feel compelled to show them off- along with their kids less-than-proudest moments- to the whole freakin world? How will the kids feel when the inevitably see the vids in a few years, probably with a collection of digital high-fives for the adults and some nasty comments for the "whiny brats" being mimicked? Maybe embarrassed? Maybe humiliated? Betrayed? Surely many will feel at least that, and rightly so, I'd say- they've had a shameful private moment broadcast to earn a parent some "likes" by making their own child look, well childish. They'll eventually see how the online chatterati shallowly disregards the fact, in that moment, however nerve-frayingly ridiculous the "tantrum" seems to adult sensibilities, the kid had a very real
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Been reading your posts for a long time. There are many inmate blogs on the internet, some more popular than others. Between the Bars strikes a good balance between them. The state of America’s prison system and the captives that fall foul of the law system are laid bare now for the world to read. Some of the conditions and issues bloggers reveal here make conditions in third world countries with despotic rulers look like Club Med.
You seem upbeat and clearly determined to negotiate the passage of time with Euro Pop and a touch of ironically placed schadenfreude. It must be difficult in the prison system as an openly gay man. Even though, I suspect, ‘The odds are good, but the goods are odd’ numbers of potential companionship in your favour.
I wouldn’t do well in a double or more occupied cell. I don’t play well with others.! Also I’m old and grumpy now.
Being once part of Europe, now separated for them via Brexit I hope our divorce will be amicable. In that they can keep their music. I did enjoy Plastic Bertrands rendering of Ca Plane Pour Moi, which was an amusing little ditty I hope you heard. We have been blessed with American music for a while now, and ai much prefer this. Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder, who I saw in concert, Earth Wind and Fire etc. Pretty much soul, R&B Rap too. Whenever my kids chide me about my age and preference for rap I remind them the Snoop Dogg etc are all in their middle years too. .
I have seen Priscilla Queen of the Desert several times. It was actually a West End show for a while, still might be, it ages well. I take my daughter to London Pride every year. It’s always a good vibe. Pretty much anything happening in London always is, it’s a great city. What cities in your country do you think have a good energy about them?
Hope you are well and eluding the virus. Look after yourself.
T
your favorite catastrophic force of nature, oh my, you make me blush! Well, I guess those people who did have thought of this happening in our lifetimes are either virologists or depressed - seems one is actually more realistic when depressed, a friend who is a psychologist told me once.
You wrote that the situation is boring, makes me think of the satire article I read today, how tired people are of corona virus, and that they are looking forward to a new, fresh virus. Ouch. It's true that we really are used to a quicker news cycle than corona is giving us now, and not really an end in sight.
Apparently, our statistics are worse right now than USA, well, with what a small country can be great... But we recently got the strong advice to wear masks inside. Mind you, only advice, because "we all are adults in this country". Yes, right. Except, actually, no.
Anyways, not gonna bore you more with that, warm greetings, all the best, and stormy greetings, Julia