May 2, 2012

Try To Be More Understanding

by Rechell Williams (author's profile)


Try To Be More Understanding 4/9/12

Often the reason a relationship fails is not because of a difference of opinion, but a lack of understanding. Why aren't we more understanding? For three reasons: (1)Selfishness. Someone quipped, "There's two sides to every question-- as long as it doesn't concern me personally." (2) Fear. Prejudice is often the fear of what we're unwilling to try and understand. When it comes to new ideas you've two options: open your mind and grow, or reject them and stay the same size. We tend to compare what we don't understand with what we think we do--like [when] the folks told Columbus the earth was flat. When it comes to building relationships, you've got to be willing to do what you've not yet done. (3) Differences. It takes more than one color to make a rainbow and one musician to make an orchestra. When you take time to appreciate the differences in people, you discover we all share the same hopes and fears. Harry Truman once said, "When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint and what he's trying to do, nine times out of ten he's just trying to do right." Two of our most common problems are "gift-envy" and "gift-projection." One happens often when we compare our talents with others and feel inferior. The other happens when we expect others to feel equally passionate about what we do.

Rachel Williams #V69138
P.O. Box 5242
Corcoran, CA 93212


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spilledmilk Posted 6 years ago. ✓ Mailed 5 years, 12 months ago   Favorite
Thanks for writing! I finished your transcription. What you say is so true. As I was typing it, I re-read what you said about gift-envy and gift-protection and that completely applies to me. I've always thought that I'm an egomaniac by nature, but reading that made me a little comforted by the fact that others do those things too. Oh, and I loved your metaphor with the rainbows and orchestra... brilliant!

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