Aug. 2, 2013

Soul Mates and Damaged Goods

by David Troupe (author's profile)

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July 6, 2013

* SOUL MATES *

What are soul mates and how do you know you found one?

* DAMAGED GOODS *

I've thought long and hard about myself. I feel damaged and unworthy of others' friendship. I came to this conclusion based on the fact no one outside of my family loves me. While some people say they care, it seems like a duty and not because they care about the inner me.
Will I ever have real friends?
Do I have a soul mate?

I met someone that brings out emotions in me I never thought I'd see again, but I'm just another prisoner. I've been taught to suppress my emotions under threat of punishment. I'm just damaged goods.
No one can fix that, but is it wrong for me to "feel"? And I know it's genuine, I haven't even seen her yet.

* Advice ? *

Always, [signed]

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susan Posted 10 years, 8 months ago. ✓ Mailed 10 years, 7 months ago   Favorite
Hi David,

I've sometimes felt like "damaged goods" because of past things that have happened to me and I've done. I know many people who feel that way too - even if they're not in prison.

Being in prison and having to suppress emotions is an awful bind to be in.

If you're not finding the connections you're hoping for, it could be because these people also feel damaged and unworthy, and are not ready to connect in an honest way.

It could also be because we're raised with different ways of communicating, and sometimes we misunderstand each other simply because of that.

I believe that you, just like every other human being, is worthy of connection and belonging.

Best,
Susan

moosehat Posted 10 years, 7 months ago. ✓ Mailed 10 years, 7 months ago   Favorite
Thanks for writing! I finished the transcription for your post.

I think it's good to trust your feelings, but important to question them, too, and think about your intentions, motivations, and past experiences.

I believe that no one, no matter what they've been through, is 'damaged goods'. Try to view yourself as a survivor. Focus on the humanity and small blessings you still have, and try not to dwell on what was taken from you. Easier said than done, I know.

Best wishes,
Lisa

David Troupe Posted 10 years, 5 months ago.   Favorite
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