June 30, 2018

Home Sweet Home

From Caged Buttafly by Maisha M. Durham (author's profile)


Home Sweet Home
Maisha Mahalia Durham

There's no place like home, it is often said. Yet I have no place that I would consider home. I have lived in this space for nearly twenty years, but it is not home nor any place I have ever lived.

What is home? Where is home? If I must answer those questions, home is a place where I feel safe, loved, and accepted. I have never felt as if I had a home, merely a space that I occupied.

I visualize a place where mud cakes are made and decorated with the berries and flowers from a bush that sits next to the road. A swing set in the backyard with rusted chains and sideways sliding board. There's a swimming pool that's filled with more leaves than water next to the trampoline that has caused many broken bones. Anger and resentment reside within the walls of the white house with black shudders and trimming. Laughter seldom heard, tears commonplace. Emotions buried deep like the roots of the old pine tree that towers over the yard that is more Georgia clay than grass. There's not much of me left because with every move, a piece of me was left behind.

In New York, my comfort and safety were destroyed. In Alabama, my innocence was taken. In Texas, my self-esteem was shattered. In Colorado, my perception of the world was distorted. So here, in Georgia, I am nothing, just a body of mass occupying space.

The constant hum of a plastic fan does nothing to eliminate the chatter from the hall. At night, a heavy snore keeps me awake, the click of the door as the officer gathers PI disturbs my slumber. The droll of a buffer at 5 AM does not permit a moment of solace. There's no real rest in this space.

A plank that is deemed a bed is supposed to be an instrument of rest, sleep, yet the blanket stained with mustard, coffee, and God knows what those reddish brown stains are, does nothing to fend off the cold sterile air that flows out of the vent directing over it. The sheets are so thin that you can see the pattern of the stiff plastic mattress, making it as unyielding as a coffin.

What scenery there is of the sky and trees is distorted by the gray bar that runs vertically down the narrow window. There can never be a perception of freedom with the razor wire fence and passing perimeter car.

The stark white pain used to cover scuff marks, chipped spots, and rust stains on the block walls merely make the room cold and void of any homeliness. These walls are meant to create a sense of privacy, yet they do anything but. They symbolize the many things I did to cover the pain, rejection, anger, and sadness that I felt.

The pink-tiled tub room is devoid of heat, no window to crack to let in a breeze with the smell of burning wood, or to release the steam that will fog up the mirror. There's always an urge to rush because someone else wants this "luxury" of a bubble bath.

Dingy blue carpet stained with coffee, Kool-Aid, and soup is an attempt to make this place comfortable. However, nothing will compare to the thick beige carpet with the small iron burn mark in the corner on my grandmother's living room floor or the dark gleaming hardwood floors in my dad's foyer.

My living space now is not much different from all the other spaces I have occupied. I have learned to adapt to the spaces. I don't conform, just adjust to make things fit for me. I have to ask myself, "Will I ever know what and where home is?"


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mahoganywrites@hotmail.com Posted 3 years, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 3 years ago   Favorite

My eyes are filled with tears. Instead of doing my work I’ve found myself engrossed in your writings. You write so beautifully and so descriptively that for the first time in 10 years, I remember how the mattresses at Lee Arrendale used to feel and the thin sheets, I could see my whole hand through it!

I don’t know if home is a place. I believe home is where your mind rests; it looks like your home may be your writing.

I saw your picture and your story on Jan Bannings post of stories and pictures of women in Pulaski.I will be praying for you, Maisha. God is a forgiving God but man is a greedy man; unmoved by human issues. I hope that someone is helping you fight! Life is always worth fighting for, even from inside. Please keep writing and know that you’re helping others. I encourage you also to draw attention to yourself the best way you can. If you don’t mind, I’d like to share your writings on my social media pages with your story so someone can reach out to you to help?

I’ll wait for your response first and do hope to hear from you,


Paulette (Mahogany)
Btw, I started writing with “The Authors Club” at Lee Arrendale in 2009

Maisha M. Durham Posted 2 years, 11 months ago.   Favorite
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