PS But I do understand your point with the illness. My mom is ill too and needs medicine throughout her life, and when she and my Dad married they asked a doctor if children could inherit that illness (a kind of what we call "Epilepsie"). He said no and so we were born.... My parents wouldn´t have got children if we could have got that illness as well.
Hope my first sentence wasn´t too hurtful. It´s just, you know, that many people want to have some love and care within a family just like you want it in a relationship. That´s, in general, quite natural and not necessarily especially selfish.
You mean, as selfish as you wanting to have a girlfriend? ;-)
I think I know what you mean and there are indeed alot of couples wanting to have children where I do agree with you.
For example, I don´t really understand why some people think they have a right to have everything without any compromise: A big fat career for him and for her as well - and of course, one or more children (if you are a Hollywood actor, you don´t even take the suffering to bear it but let another woman give birth to your child) to have heirs and when they´re small, to have such a little sweet doll in your arms - and then they´re given away to a nanny or somewhere else, only fetched in the evening and they don´t have a real relationship with their physical parents.
I even heard doctors from a hospital which does artificial fertilisation (don´t know the right term, hope you understand what I mean) say: Single women also have a right to have a child. THAT´S indeed selfish. A right to have a child? A child is a gift by God, not a right to have.
On the other hand, I also know people who, for example, had a wonderful childhood with loving parents and who want to give such a childhood to another little human being and love it into life. I wouldn´t call such parents selfish - although, a little selfishness does belong to it, otherwise manhood wouldn´t exist anymore, I guess. ;-))) The personal wish to have children is necessary to keep a species alive....
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And thank you for your wishes of a Happy Christmas. I wish you a merry Christmas too.
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But I do understand your point with the illness.
My mom is ill too and needs medicine throughout her life, and when she and my Dad married they asked a doctor if children could inherit that illness (a kind of what we call "Epilepsie").
He said no and so we were born....
My parents wouldn´t have got children if we could have got that illness as well.
Hope my first sentence wasn´t too hurtful.
It´s just, you know, that many people want to have some love and care within a family just like you want it in a relationship. That´s, in general, quite natural and not necessarily especially selfish.
I think I know what you mean and there are indeed alot of couples wanting to have children where I do agree with you.
For example, I don´t really understand why some people think they have a right to have everything without any compromise: A big fat career for him and for her as well - and of course, one or more children (if you are a Hollywood actor, you don´t even take the suffering to bear it but let another woman give birth to your child) to have heirs and when they´re small, to have such a little sweet doll in your arms - and then they´re given away to a nanny or somewhere else, only fetched in the evening and they don´t have a real relationship with their physical parents.
I even heard doctors from a hospital which does artificial fertilisation (don´t know the right term, hope you understand what I mean) say: Single women also have a right to have a child.
THAT´S indeed selfish. A right to have a child?
A child is a gift by God, not a right to have.
On the other hand, I also know people who, for example, had a wonderful childhood with loving parents and who want to give such a childhood to another little human being and love it into life.
I wouldn´t call such parents selfish - although, a little selfishness does belong to it, otherwise manhood wouldn´t exist anymore, I guess. ;-)))
The personal wish to have children is necessary to keep a species alive....
(The one with the Christians, I mean.)