June 8, 2014

"Love is the will to nurture our own or another's spiritual growth!"
-Scott Peck

Women of all ages, I address these writings to you. Yeah, you, I see you smiling!

Let me begin by saying that my intention for writing this is not to place blame, find fault, nor point the finger, but to instead have a heart to heart conversation. One that's open and honest. That is, if you have it in you.

See, I've been doing some deep... what shall I call it... Yeah, that's right, reflecting in hopes of finding out why so many women claim to want Mr. Right but all too often settle for Mr. Right Now or his twin brother, Mr. Wrong. I firmly believe that many of you are genuinely seeking your Prince Charming, the man you've envisioned all of your childhood. Your knight in shining armor. So don't get me wrong. And if you're twisting your lips or rolling your eyes, then this is especially for you (you know who you are)! If I'm wrong, let me know. But you and I both know what's real.

Honestly though, I think the vast majority of you don't know who he, your Prince Charming, is. Maybe he's the guy opening the door for you at the grocery store with a smile. But since his smile was crooked and he works at Aldi's, he doesn't fit into the ideal man you saw yourself having. Or better yet, he could be the man eying you from across the room with a good job, a loving personality and dreams. But since you noticed him getting off of public transit, you don't give him the time of day. Damn! After all, your man at home is riding and paying the bills. So you tell yourself that everything's fine.

But if that's the case, then why are your nights spent alone, waiting and waiting? Even when you're encased in his arms, doubt swirls around and around inside of your head. You wonder if he's really right for you and, if so, then why is your heart yearning for more? Maybe it's another caress or a second longer in a hug. Just one more kiss or a gentle squeeze of the arm as you sway down the street in true lover's fashion. Either way, you know in your heart that something isn't right. Yet you continue to tell yourself otherwise. You dream that he would give you the love and care that you're not giving yourself. Because if you were, then you'd recognize that he's not your prince. Instead, he's a frog that won't transform (Mr. Wrong).

So there you are, day after day, giving up the most sacred part of who you are as a woman to a man who may be gone tomorrow. I mean, sure, the night was fun. Dinner turned into drinks that ended with the both of you back at his place immensely enjoying yourselves. And as you drifted off to sleep, you can't help but wonder if you and him will go the distance. Am I right? "Just maybe, he could be the one," you tell yourself. What is lust for him you hope is love and leads to more. Maybe a ring. So it's no surprise that you're disappointed when morning comes and there's no breakfast in bed nor a goodbye kiss. If you were lucky, you might've gotten an early morning romp in the sheets before he was out of the door without so much as a thank you. So once again, you entertain the thought, "What's wrong with me?"

See, ladies, nothing is wrong with you! In God's eyes, you're perfect just the way you are, and nothing can fix what God already put his paintbrush on. It's him who is missing out on what could have been the best thing to happen to him since Nike! He's too busy chasing rhinestones to realize that there's a diamond (you!) he could had have that's worth millions right in front of him. All he has to do is reach out and grab it. Hold it close to his chest. But he won't. Because, let's face it, most of us are idiots at times.

But what I want to say to you is that no matter how much makeup you put on or how good you look or how much of the goodies you give him, if doesn't respect and love you for you, then he never will. It might sound cliché, but it's true. See ladies, though you may have kissed too many frogs and have a bitter taste in your mouth for love that is causing you to settle or think twice when it comes to true love, I want you to know that your Prince Charming is still out there. You just have to find him.

Still, my question to you is: why do you it? Why do you settle when the man of your dreams could be around the next corner? For the women who already have their Mr. Right, share with us how that came to be. I'm sure there are other women who would like to know the secret to your success.

Until next time, take care. you're on A Day In the Life with me,
Michael McThune

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