I think at times we all feel like we're talking to ourselves, but thanks to Btb we can interact here, which is a wonderful thing.
The loss of your children is heartbreaking, you obviously love them a lot, I hope you can focus on the fact that you had those years of continuous contact with your son throughout his childhood, even though you're unable to see him now. He will have a lot of memories of you, just as you do of him, and I'm sure he misses you too. I don't mean to diminish the pain you feel, but I hope you can be thankful for the contact you have had to this point and use those moments to find strength.
You thanked me in your reply, for understanding the pain you and others deal with. I thought this was an interesting comment, it was sweet, but I don't think for a moment that I could ever understand what you go through in that environment. I have been inside Australian prisons before throughout the course of my employment, and the cells in the watchhouse (which you would call jail) and I have felt the heaviness of those environments, but I always had the knowledge that the doors would be unlocked for me when it was time to leave, and that's what made it bareable. I feel that although I couldn't ever understand your pain, all I can do is acknowledge it.
My children's father has the option to be in their lives, but he chooses not to. It hardly seems fair when there are others like you that would do anything for the chance to see their children. It's a crazy world we live in and corresponding with people like yourself makes me incredibly thankful for all that I do have.
I don't know if our success 'could' be replicated in the USA. We don't have "a right to bare arms" written into our constitution so it's not something that was difficult decision for most of us. We didn't feel like we were being deprived of our basic rights and focused on the value of human life, and the fact that we never wanted to see another incident of violence like Port Arthur in our country again. I think the mentality of many American's is very different to our own, specifically on this issue.
Please tell me though that you DON'T see the solution for the mass loss of life that keeps recurring in the USA over and over again is - more guns... (?) In all seriousness... that cannot possibly make sense in anyone's mind. Can it..?
Now, you know that I know and love you, and I'm not one to generally disagree with people with such strong opinions, I'd rather smile and keep walking. But at the risk of being labeled a "bleeding-heart liberal vegan" (haha)... I have to offer you the following thoughts from Australia.
The last mass shooting we had here was almost 20 years ago at Port Arthur (which was originally a penal settlement), where Martin Bryant was accused and sentenced for killing 35 people in 1996.
At that time strict gun controls came into being across our country. There was a buy back scheme put in place and an amnesty, where people were able to hand their guns in, registered or not, no questions asked. Interestingly, since this most recent tragedy, I've seen footage of some American's handing their weapons in enmass, no buy back... just handing them in. Here we now have NO access to automatic weapons in our country, and in my mind, there is no legitimate purpose for them. To have a gun license now, Australians must have a legitimate purpose to own a gun. Either a member of a sporting gun club or a property owner with livestock. Our Police and some security guards carry sidearms, but they are locked into gun safes at their place of work at the end of their shift. Possession is of a weapon (of any type) is a criminal offence here. As for our neighbors in New Zealand, across the Tasman Sea, their police don't even carry guns. I think perhaps we walk our streets here feeling much safer than most American's would, armed or not.
Our little gun control social experiment (if you'd like to look at it that way) has been a resounding success. We have had exactly NO mass shootings since gun control was put into place (mass shootings are defined by police and criminologists as 4 or more at one time) and I think that is incredibly significant. I would like to think that America would look to us as an example of the difference that can be. I certainly believe we (Australians) looked to America for what could be when our gun laws were overhauled 16 years ago. And I couldn't be more thankful for the changes that our government made at that time.
RSS
The loss of your children is heartbreaking, you obviously love them a lot, I hope you can focus on the fact that you had those years of continuous contact with your son throughout his childhood, even though you're unable to see him now. He will have a lot of memories of you, just as you do of him, and I'm sure he misses you too. I don't mean to diminish the pain you feel, but I hope you can be thankful for the contact you have had to this point and use those moments to find strength.
You thanked me in your reply, for understanding the pain you and others deal with. I thought this was an interesting comment, it was sweet, but I don't think for a moment that I could ever understand what you go through in that environment. I have been inside Australian prisons before throughout the course of my employment, and the cells in the watchhouse (which you would call jail) and I have felt the heaviness of those environments, but I always had the knowledge that the doors would be unlocked for me when it was time to leave, and that's what made it bareable. I feel that although I couldn't ever understand your pain, all I can do is acknowledge it.
My children's father has the option to be in their lives, but he chooses not to. It hardly seems fair when there are others like you that would do anything for the chance to see their children. It's a crazy world we live in and corresponding with people like yourself makes me incredibly thankful for all that I do have.
Take care!
Nicki
Please tell me though that you DON'T see the solution for the mass loss of life that keeps recurring in the USA over and over again is - more guns... (?) In all seriousness... that cannot possibly make sense in anyone's mind. Can it..?
Now, you know that I know and love you, and I'm not one to generally disagree with people with such strong opinions, I'd rather smile and keep walking. But at the risk of being labeled a "bleeding-heart liberal vegan" (haha)... I have to offer you the following thoughts from Australia.
The last mass shooting we had here was almost 20 years ago at Port Arthur (which was originally a penal settlement), where Martin Bryant was accused and sentenced for killing 35 people in 1996.
At that time strict gun controls came into being across our country. There was a buy back scheme put in place and an amnesty, where people were able to hand their guns in, registered or not, no questions asked. Interestingly, since this most recent tragedy, I've seen footage of some American's handing their weapons in enmass, no buy back... just handing them in. Here we now have NO access to automatic weapons in our country, and in my mind, there is no legitimate purpose for them. To have a gun license now, Australians must have a legitimate purpose to own a gun. Either a member of a sporting gun club or a property owner with livestock. Our Police and some security guards carry sidearms, but they are locked into gun safes at their place of work at the end of their shift. Possession is of a weapon (of any type) is a criminal offence here. As for our neighbors in New Zealand, across the Tasman Sea, their police don't even carry guns. I think perhaps we walk our streets here feeling much safer than most American's would, armed or not.
Our little gun control social experiment (if you'd like to look at it that way) has been a resounding success. We have had exactly NO mass shootings since gun control was put into place (mass shootings are defined by police and criminologists as 4 or more at one time) and I think that is incredibly significant. I would like to think that America would look to us as an example of the difference that can be. I certainly believe we (Australians) looked to America for what could be when our gun laws were overhauled 16 years ago. And I couldn't be more thankful for the changes that our government made at that time.