When you write to the counselor, let her know that you want to offer what you can through letters. If the state has custody, then they can decide if you having some contact will be of help.
The truth of a 16 year old is that they probably won't be adopted. Though, sometimes it does happen.
Usually, they look for people that the child/teen has known in their life. There are a lot of mentors/friends/family that will step up if this is explored. Maybe that's some of what the counselor is trying to do? It's hard for me to tell.
If they don't go to a family, they will live in a group home with the intention of helping them learn skills they will need to live on their own.
Wherever she goes, let the counselor know what you can provide: support through letters. This is no small thing! Let her know that you will support whatever long term plan that they find that will help your daughter - and that you want to be a part of that in whatever way they deem safe/beneficial.
Ask her if you can send letters to her and that they can be used in therapy (this is a therapist?) If they don't know you, this is the safest thing (and they'll get to know you, too).
BTW, all states will request a TPR if the parents are unable to complete their case plan in 18 months (federal standard - they get money for this compliance). If you are locked up or not, the timeline is still 18 months.
Anyway, I'm writing this quickly. Write the counselor and let her know that you want contact, if it's helpful. Also let her know that if Krista is angry (and she might be) that you would like to let her know that you're sorry and that her anger/disappointment (whatever) is OK.
You are still VERY important in your daughter's life. Don't let that go, ok?
RSS
The truth of a 16 year old is that they probably won't be adopted. Though, sometimes it does happen.
Usually, they look for people that the child/teen has known in their life. There are a lot of mentors/friends/family that will step up if this is explored. Maybe that's some of what the counselor is trying to do? It's hard for me to tell.
If they don't go to a family, they will live in a group home with the intention of helping them learn skills they will need to live on their own.
Wherever she goes, let the counselor know what you can provide: support through letters. This is no small thing! Let her know that you will support whatever long term plan that they find that will help your daughter - and that you want to be a part of that in whatever way they deem safe/beneficial.
Ask her if you can send letters to her and that they can be used in therapy (this is a therapist?) If they don't know you, this is the safest thing (and they'll get to know you, too).
BTW, all states will request a TPR if the parents are unable to complete their case plan in 18 months (federal standard - they get money for this compliance). If you are locked up or not, the timeline is still 18 months.
Anyway, I'm writing this quickly. Write the counselor and let her know that you want contact, if it's helpful. Also let her know that if Krista is angry (and she might be) that you would like to let her know that you're sorry and that her anger/disappointment (whatever) is OK.
You are still VERY important in your daughter's life. Don't let that go, ok?
jan