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Cavak Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
Thanks for writing! I finished the transcription for your post.

A significant struggle that I overcame in the past was finding my identity after my first breakup. Even though I thought at the time that I wanted to marry this person and that they are truly wonderful at heart, we couldn't communicate on the same level and we drifted apart. I got dumped soon after a one-sided "conversation".

I went through many days and nights just hurting and crying after the breakup. The self-blaming, the "if only" wistfulness that followed. What could have, I should haves, the emotional bargaining. Full non-stop grieving. It was tough.

Many months and sessions of self-care later, I gained the hindsight of knowing that the relationship had to end. It was bad for BOTH of us. Relationships can only work if both parties are willing to keep it, which sadly was not the case.

And yes, I did contribute to its failure. But being down on myself like it's ALL my fault wasn't the whole truth of the matter either. Really, accepting my accountability for what it truly was (and not the exaggerated narrative I conjured) did wonders.

What nudged me towards acceptance is knowing that loss was not unique to me either. There's a whole world out there that goes through the same thing every day too. Taking a step back after the grieving helped me towards self-respect and then true forgiveness.

Failure in this relationship helped me realize what values and boundaries I will honor, including the things that are above my own personal and emotional needs. And I now know I was fortunate to have experienced the love that was there rather than not at all.

My life wasn't ruined by the breakup, it got better. Because I was able to find empathy and learn a compassion that I didn't have before. Treasured lessons that I continue to cherish to this day.

Posted on Dear Reader........8/25/19 by Douglas Blaine Matthews Dear Reader........8/25/19
dorothymarie Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
Hello cowboy! I really appreciate your thoughts and sharing them. Your mention of the two step in this post makes me think of the Git Up challenge videos that are spreading like crazy. It’s a country dance song. The videos can be really cute. It’s hard enough for me to think of death at times...I can’t imagine actually facing it or knowing it’s going to happen at anytime. Yes, we all die but I know being on row is a whole different experience. I’m glad you shared your blog site with me.

Dorothy from MI

Posted on Open Letter 2019 by Charles Thompson Open Letter 2019
queen922 Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
I Miss You. You have always been beautiful when expressing your words... I really miss getting the wisdom of the world through your eyes...
Love Always,
Serena (The Queen)

Posted on Do You Hear What I Hear? by X-ray-Robinson Do You Hear What I Hear?
Julia Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
Hi Donnie,
I am glad the information was of use to you. All the best with your fight for your rights,
warm greetings,
Julia

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Julia Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
Hi Harlan,
good to read from you.
Am I a political Junkie? I guess I am. I am not on it 24/7, but I am surely interested. Lately I enjoy listening to podcasts, some by NPR are quite good. But those of course are inaccessible without the internet.
Well, busted, yes, I am from Europe, I live in the Netherlands, grew up in Germany.
Concerning the candidates, you sound like Elizabeth Warren could become your favorite. These are the ones that qualified for the next debate: Joe Biden, Bernie Sanders, Elizabeth Warren, Kamala Harris, Pete Buttigieg, Beto O’Rourke, Cory Booker, Amy Klobuchar, Andrew Yang, and Julián Castro. But I don't think anyone but Biden, Sanders or Warren stands a chance, if nothing crazy happens.
Interesting that there are no openly MAGAinmates. Too bad you can't vote.
Have you heard of the change of law in Florida that now allows most former inmates to vote? One puzzling thing about it that the push for this was supported by the an organisation financed by the Koch brothers ("The amendment was officially supported by Floridians for a Fair Democracy, which gathered more than 1.1 million petitions to put it on the ballot. It received bipartisan endorsements from the American Civil Liberties Union and the Koch brothers–backed Freedom Partners.") - while one would expect all of this will rather profit the democrats in such a crucial state. No it seems that the Republicans want to have people pay a fee or sth - seems like the last word is not spoken on this issue.
Concerning the dollar, I guess that also might be a case of too big to fail. But on the other hand, I am afraid the financial system is not stable at all. It's not that the factors that led to the last financial crisis don't exist anymore.
That is my little rant of today,
greetings,
Julia

Posted on Wikileaks - The Julian Assange Controversy by Harlan Richards Wikileaks - The Julian Assange Controversy
Astoecker Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
I remember that night you scared the holy hell out of me and I instantly realized how far your addictions had you and you were gonna be lost from me one day.

Posted on Bum Bob by Roland F. Stoecker Jr Bum Bob
Astoecker Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
R.Stoecker

I am your wife and always will be we traveled a rough road apart but somehow have managed to forgive forget and find our way back together through the darkness. I enjoyed our time together recently and I am looking forward to many more until you are home again. See you soon my love.

I love you and we are all very proud of how far you’ve come and support you.

Love
Your family

Posted on The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly by Roland F. Stoecker Jr The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
Jeanette.medrano Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
hey unk, i got your letter and your blog post. i stopped working. idk ive been depressed alot. i cant figure out how i got so fucked up these past 4 years. i wish my poppa was here.sometimes i feel like ill never accomplish anything without him here. i feel like my whole life is just a waste.how do i let the pain go? loosing the only person that never hurt me and i ever loved has just fucked me up completely. how do i move on past it..all i keep thinking about is when he died... i dont understand why it couldnt have been me instead of him.my whole family barely talks to me . i feel so alone . i feel like i am always running from everything. people friends jobs everything. i cant even keep a job i feel like im mentally crazy and every day im just drifting more away from the world. i feel like everyone would be better off with out my miserable ass being around unhappy . I dont like feeling this way... i want a change... but no matter were i go it just follows me. the pain the loss and the hurt . i dont know how to get these thoughts out of my head either. i feel like ill never be happy again. i want a change. i realize at some point in my life i need a break and ill get one..... but when is the question i always ask my self..i cant go on like this for another decade. your niece love always. can you drawl your other niece a card she wanted one althena is her name.

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Donald Tinsley Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
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@WriteOrDie2020 Posted 5 years, 4 months ago.   Favorite
Would you like to share your blog on other blogging platforms? I can help you to get your voice/words beyond this platform. That's what I do. And I work with a group of writers here to help there publishing and social media projects. Would you like me to send you a copy the Zine series they produce? And if you're interested in contributing to the next issue we're looking for more writers such as yourself

I'll get back to you soon after you respond and in the meantime keep wrighting and take care of yourself.

Posted on Prison Rights by Nathaniel Lindell Prison Rights
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