April 26, 2016

15 Long Years!

From Counterfeit Freedom by Roland F. Stoecker Jr (author's profile)


15 Long Years!
I'm sending a photo I took a few weeks ago. I look at myself and wonder where the hell has the young man gone to. A man who could smile and make it look normal. It felt so forced and weird standing there to get a non prison ID photo taken. Prison has taken away a relationship with my kids, wife, family, but it has given me maturity and sobriety. All at the expense of others, I became who I was supposed to be when I was born.
4/18/16 Roland Stoecker


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JaqueshaS Posted 1 year, 10 months ago. ✓ Mailed 1 year, 9 months ago   Favorite
Thanks for writing! I finished the transcription for your post.

Ajj13 Posted 1 year, 1 month ago. ✓ Mailed 1 year, 1 month ago   Favorite
Hello Roland. I have read some of your blog posts and they are very interesting. I like seeing these different perspective you have on life. My name is Alyssa and I am asking a few people on the betweenthebars.org some questions for my own research and was wondering if you would answer them if you felt like it. What are ways that some men deal with missing women in prison? Do you think men change not being around women? If so in what ways? How do you think this affects them when they are released? Do you think men become more reserved or dont know how to deal with a womens "touch" when released? ;) I just want to hear your input on this out of curiosity. Speak your mind. I would love to maybe see a blog post about this too. Thank you. Hope to hear back :)

Roland F. Stoecker Jr Posted 1 year ago.   Favorite
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Ajj13 Posted 1 year ago. ✓ Mailed 1 year ago   Favorite
Hi Roland! Thank you so much for your response it was so thorough. Just to let you know I asked these questions for a psychology class that I am taking in college. I am doing research on human interactions and how a lack of intimate contact can change a persons personality and outlook on life. I am specifically looking at correction systems. I asked men and women about how they deal with the lack of contact with each other and I have found similar results in some instances and very different results in others. It seems that masturbation is a similar thing that men and women both use as a coping mechanism to deal with the lack of contact in prison. ( Dont blame anyone for that. lol. Got to have some kind of fun in prison I bet. I know I would ;) ) Also most men responded with saying they have a stronger appreciation of women than before they were in prison. Women seem to just miss the interaction in general with men. Roland I appreciate you responding and I really do enjoy all of your blog posts. I will keep reading and feel free to comment back on this and maybe we can keep this conversation going or whatever you would like to talk about. I am doing research and my paper wont be due until the end of the semester so I could alway use more inspiration on what to look up and dive deeper into this topic. It was interesting to see your perspective with having a conjugal visit. It is also very interesting that California has eliminated pornographic material. I think it is very unhealthy for any human being to not have any form of sexual release. I would be curious to hear what you think this does to people in prison? Do people get around this or are they very strict? I feel this would create a very hostile and angry environment if people can not release themselves. Do more people result in turning "gay" because of this? Do you think conjugal visits help control peoples behavior knowing it could be taken away? Do california prisons look down on any masturbation or do they look the other way? That is all the questions I have for now. Answer all or whatever questions you feel comfortable answering. Also you can add any info you think would be helpful for my research. Thank you again Alyssa :)

Roland F. Stoecker Jr Posted 11 months, 2 weeks ago.   Favorite
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Ajj13 Posted 11 months, 1 week ago. ✓ Mailed 11 months ago   Favorite
Hi Roland! Thank you so much for your letter. It will be really helpful to my research. I really enjoyed all your answers. I hope you will post more blogs on here. I really like all your writing. I will be working on this paper for an entire semester and might have more follow-up questions in the future. Feel free to ask me anything you would like too ;)

Your friend Alyssa.

Roland F. Stoecker Jr Posted 8 months, 3 weeks ago.   Favorite
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